Testing Friendship

I was feeling extremely shitty yesterday so I didn’t put up a post; I actually thought I had gotten malaria but I’m feeling better now. Also, the heat around here was oppressive. There was no escape! It was so hot that even drinking cold water wasn’t helping. Of course with the heat comes dust because most of the roads here are just murram; my shoes can’t stay clean longer than 30 seconds.:(

Enough about my weather woes and on to today’s post. It won’t be a long post because I really don’t have much to say. I think I may be about to get into one of my broody moods. When I get into those, I spend hours on my own thinking about whatever it was that got me in that mood. It can’t be very healthy because usually the conclusions I come to are depressing.

Like this mood that’s been hanging over me is about friendship. I’ve been contemplating about the people I call my friends and whether the sacrifices I’d make for them would be reciprocated. And how would you test it? How would you know? At what point do you call someone a friend? If you have to test it then it isn’t truly a friendship because you don’t trust them, is it?

I once read somewhere that you can count as friends those people you can call past midnight when in trouble and they’ll get out of bed to help. I think that it’s a very solid test, don’t you? I’ve only ever been in such a situation once, of course. I had just dropped another friend of mine at her room after an extremely rowdy session of drinking in my room. I was drunk and on a whim called another friend of mine who lived in a nearby building. It must have been 12.30am. She came and kept me company in the cold for almost two hours mostly listening to me (I’m talkative when drunk). Yeah, she’s a true friend.

So how do you decide who you call a friend? At which point, for you, does someone move from acquaintance to friend? Let me know in the comments or by email. Peace!!!